Four Top Reasons You Need a Fertility Coach

Non-newsflash for anyone touched by infertility: it is incredibly stressful. Not stressful like a crowded Trader Joe’s parking lot. Stressful like cancer. Literally. According to Psychology Today, research shows that the stress levels of women going through infertility are on par with those experiencing cancer, AIDS and heart disease.

This degree of stress requires tapping into every resource at your disposal to get through infertility in one piece. And one of the most indispensable, yet barely known, resources out there is a Fertility Coach. 

Seems like there’s a coach for everything these days…. That may be true, but in this case, we’re dealing with a different animal altogether. Infertility is truly its own beast and going at it alone is a recipe for an extra serving of heartache, isolation and distress. 

Enter: Fertility Coach. 

Here is what a Fertility Coach is and the FOUR top reasons why you needed one yesterday.

More than anything, a Fertility Coach exists to help ease the profound burden of infertility. A good Fertility Coach has been there and knows first-hand how overwhelming, confusing, painful and lonely the process can be. 

A Fertility Coach combines industry know-how and experienced coaching practices with the empathy and compassion that can only come from those who truly get-it.  We fill that gaping hole left between the clinical approach of doctors and the well-meaning, but frequently off-the-mark input from friends and family.

Your relationships, your confidence, your bank account and your body may all take a massive hit as you endure infertility. Here’s how a Fertility Coach can help.

SUPPORT 

As you go through trying to conceive, and time drags on and things don’t go as planned, it starts to become clear very quickly that your normal support structure doesn’t cut it. Family and friends (almost) always mean well and love you very much, but they are simply not equipped to accompany you on this journey in all the necessary ways. 

A Fertility Coach will be present to you in a way that no one else in your life can, however much they wish they could. Maybe they are too involved in the process and invested in the outcome (looking at you, partner). Maybe they are preoccupied with being pregnant or have kids of their own (looking at you, bestie). Maybe they’ve been hinting at a grandchild for a little too long (you know who we’re looking at now).

A Fertility Coach comes with no shared history, no bias, no conflicts of interest, no judgment, no baggage, no strings and no bullshit. Possibly the biggest way that hiring a Fertility Coach will change your life is suddenly having an ally and a companion who is in your corner no matter what and makes you feel heard, understood and supported.

STRATEGIZING AND DECISION MAKING 

One of the most surprising things about infertility can be the lack of uniformity in the medical world.  Every Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) has a different approach and it can be head-spinning. Of course, this is often the case with medicine, leading to the common recommendation for second and third opinions with any diagnosis. But with infertility, there are 

Just. So. Many. Variables.

Much remains unknown about successfully carrying a pregnancy to term. Every human body is radically different. Responses to the same treatment can range wildly. (Even with the same person!) No doctor can guarantee a live birth. Even the most straight-forward seeming route can present road-blocks and surprises.

All this means that there end up being so many decisions to be made. A Fertility Coach will help you navigate each and every one of these decisions, big, small or otherwise. We will introduce new information to consider and help you make sense of the information you already have. 

This includes distilling down information so you don’t waste countless hours with Dr. Google, and asking the type of questions that quickly get to the heart of the matter, leading to decisions and choices that bring confidence and hope.

DOLLAH BILLS 

Anyone that even dips their toe in the waters of Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) immediately realizes that it can be shockingly expensive and that insurance rarely covers the costs. 

A Fertility Coach can’t pay for your treatment (sad) but will help you source and navigate ways to cut costs and manage expenses. This includes the aforementioned decision-making guidance that a Fertility Coach will provide, which can absolutely lead to unanticipated cost savings. This also includes helping you tap into any grants that may be available, coupons for medicine, and resources within your local community. 

Your bank account will likely suffer at the hands of infertility, but a Fertility Coach can help cushion the blow.

ADVOCACY

If there is one thing a Fertility Coach can do better than anyone, it is advocate for your needs, wants, priorities and dreams. With a competent Coach, this can take shape in a number of ways. 

A Fertility Coach will make sure you show up to every doctor's visit prepared. We help you gather your thoughts and come up with the right questions so that every visit with your medical professional brings you the clarity you deserve and leaves you feeling confident and clear on next steps. We will be the first to tell you if you are not getting the answers or care that you should be.

A Fertility Coach will help you tap into all kinds of resources that can provide crucial support on your fertility path. This includes referrals to providers such as acupuncture, psychotherapy, support groups, nutritionists and more. We don’t claim to do it all, but we are the person in your life who knows what your top needs are at any given time and how to get them met.

Finally, it is a Fertility Coaches’ job to stay current in the rapidly evolving world of ART and all that it entails, so that you don’t have to. A Coach shares with you all relevant information as it becomes available, including scientific research, thought-leader pieces and more. 

SO THERE YOU HAVE IT

When you start working with a Fertility Coach, the infertility journey will feel more manageable. At InCircle Fertility, we have helped countless women build inner strength, re-group and chart a path forward. Working with InCircle Fertility is something you can do right now to regain some control while taking care of yourself. Contact Us Now to get connected and learn more.